No More Attachments to the Outcomes

What does it mean to have attachment to outcomes?

If you were to ask someone to write down what they want their life to feel and/or look like, somewhere before they even start writing, they will already have decided what things they can have and what things they cannot have. This is what it means to have attachment to the outcomes.

People will already limit the outcome based on their attachment to a self-imposed or society-imposed belief system, regarding what is possible and what is not possible.

We do not pay attention to the fact that we are usually already trying to figure out the answer based on attachment.

Some examples of the internal questions we struggle with as a result of having an attachment to the outcome are:

When is it going to happen?

Where is it going to happen?

How is it going to happen?

With whom will it happen?

There is limitation in attachment if we do not realize what our own core belief systems are.

Some examples of the internal questions we struggle with regarding core belief systems are:

Do I believe I am worthy?

Do I believe I can have?…

Do I believe things can change?

A practical example utilizing a tool called: Vision boarding

Some people utilize the tool of vision boarding in order to place images on a board to look at on a daily bases or as often as possible, until the images become a subconscious thought.

For some, this tool may not work if an individual’s core beliefs are that they are not worthy of what they desire to have, do not believe that things can change, or that they can have what they desire to have.

These are core beliefs but they are also forms of attachment that must be looked at by the individual, in order to detach from thoughts and beliefs that no longer apply to the individual.

Let’s detach from what no longer works for us.

Let’s detach from what no longer makes us happy.

Let’s form an attachment to those things that we believe from the core.

Let’s form an attachment to the tools that are going to get us there.

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Help Me Help You Help Me

People are scared to ask for help.

People believe that if they ask for help that they are showing a sign of weakness.

Actually it’s quite the contrary.

If we continue to suffer in silence, we grow weaker and weaker because we didn’t try to receive help.

When you receive help and begin to feel better, I feel better too.

As the character Jerry McGuire iterates, that for another person to have more desire, and put forth more effort toward you than you put forth for yourself can be “An up at dawn, pride swallowing SEIGE!”

We will automatically in some way, shape, or form, drag others into our problems if we don’t get the help that we need and deserve.

After all, don’t we all want to achieve the QUAN!

It Means LOVE, RESPECT,COMMUNITY and THE DOLLARS TOO! THE QUAN! LOL

Did you know that everyone on the entire planet carries an energetic vibration that affects whatever it comes in contact with?

When your energy is vibrationally low, or you haven’t gotten help, you affect those around you.

Now that you understand how your NOT receiving help for whatever ails you,not only impacts you but others,does this change your mind about receiving help?

I sure hope so!

Don’t let your cry for help be a silent cry.

Thanks for stopping by!

“Helping people to achieve their fullest potential, as I learn to live my fullest potential~Lisa

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I Hope I Never See You Again

I am a coach and mentor, and my approach and belief with regard to entering into the coach or mentor relationship, is that the relationship is short-lived!!

That’s right!!

I said short-lived!!

In fact, I HOPE I NEVER SEE YOU AGAIN!!

Why am I saying this?

I am saying this because many can perceive the coaching and mentoring relationship as the same kind of relationship as your clinical counselor,psychiatrist or psychologist, and although a clinical counselor can in fact call themselves coaches, a life coach by definition does not have to have a clinical degree.

On the opposite side of the spectrum, coaches and mentors can also behave with the mindset that a person needs to maintain an elongated relationship in order to achieve a successful outcome.

It is my personal belief that a person already has the answers within themselves, and that it is my job to assist in a person’s ability to bring forth, and become aware of the answers that reside within; In this case, an individual will not only be able to navigate the current situation, but those that follow as well.

Don’t get me wrong! I would love to chit chat over a nice cup of tea while you are expressing the successes that you have been able to maintain because of the coaching and/or mentoring that you received through Motivation Made Simple, but NOT because I believe that we MUST have a long-term coaching relationship.

What Is  A  Life Coach?

A Life Coach is someone who has an expertise in a specific area based on personal experience and overcoming a situation or circumstance, therefore providing services to others who also need assistance regarding that same kinds of situations or circumstances.

Coaches specialize in many different areas of expertise such as:

Life

Spirituality

Marriage

Relationships in general

Adolescence

Career

Executive Coaching and more.

For the purposes of this post, I have only written about the areas I specialize in.

What Is An Executive Coach?

An Executive Coach can function in various ways, with a couple of those ways being that the Coach provides assistance to the Executive, with the ultimate focus being on the company that the Executive works for, or the Executive Coach can provide assistance to the Executive, with the ultimate focus being on the Executive personally, which in turn will have an impact regarding the company.

I am the latter with regard to Executive Coaching services, as well as being a Life Coach for anyone who desires assistance from a coach, as long as the circumstance or situation being presented is one that I have knowledge and understanding about, in order to enter into the coaching relationship.

Thank you for stopping by.

You may contact me @ lisascott858@msn.com or through my website @ http://www.motivationmadesimple.net/

 

Until I Get A New Home You Can’t Come Over

New Home

Listen! I currently live in a 4 bedroom town home that needs some work.

It’s not a piece of crap but it definitely needs a little work.

This blog is an awesome metaphor(click this think for metaphorical writings from Living The Creative) for what allot of people believe regarding getting assistance from others.

What I mean by this, is that some people believe that a person has to be 100% perfect (or a newly constructed home) before they will receive help or assistance from that person.

I think this is not 100% accurate. This is just my opinion.

I don’t believe this is your opinion either.

A New Home for Professionals

The reason I say this is because people go to doctors all the time to help with various things such as smoking when the doctor smokes, weight-loss “gurus” who are overweight, psychiatrists who have problems themselves, and the list goes on and on.

This is not to come down on doctors, but just to prove my point that there are many homes that need to get it together so to speak, and definitely don’t live in a new home, symbolically speaking.

Don’t get me wrong! I don’t believe you should go to someone who is completely off the mark, but if a person has at least gone through what you have, and come out on the other side; Although the person may not be 100% perfect, they may be perfect for you to learn and understand what you need to know.

The home may not be a new home, but it’s definitely an appreciated shelter.

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A Poem Acts As Light

ILLUMINATION

I never imagined that my favorite poem at the time, illuminated a path that I would soon walk on.

The quote I am speaking of is called: Our Deepest Fear by Marianne Williamson. Zen Pencils does an awesome pictoral representation of this poem @ http://zenpencils.com/comic/65-marianne-williamson-our-deepest-fear/

Everyday when I opened the cabinet over my desk at work, there it was. The poem that spoke to my heart most deeply at the time. The words starting out by saying: ” Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.” I was hooked by the first phrase. These were the words that I had always wanted to say to myself, and accept of myself, but for some reason I was not there yet.

IT IS OUR LIGHT

“It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous,handsome, talented and fabulous?” This phrase was next. Wow! I so identified with this powerful declaration. I am the light that Marianne was speaking of. The poem went on and on, day after day, speaking to the deepest parts of me.

I realized that in the absence of speaking my thoughts out loud, I was communicating with this poem. Reading each phrase day by day. Questioning the validity of the words of the poem within myself, and as time went on, I was growing into an understanding of the words and how they applied to the ME that was unfolding.

IN PLAIN VIEW

If you have a favorite quote or poem, place it in plain view where you can see the words every day. The fact that the words to this poem were “working with me” so to speak, was not conscious to me at the time. So I am suggesting that the power of the mind to bring something to consciousness was great in this regard.

I look back at this poem now and marvel! Try it and experience the power and magic of working with YOURSELF!

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How OLD Are You?

Do you happen to be telling yourself how OLD you are? “I feel this way because I’m OLD. This happened because I’m OLD. I can’t wear certain clothes because I’m OLD. I can’t wear my hair long because I’m OLD,” etc., etc. Did you know that as you tell yourself these words, your body yields to your will. That’s right! Your WILL BE DONE. The cells of your body are their own community, communicating the energy and vibration of your will. CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE, and out of your same two eyes, you will see things differently. I refuse to contract with OLD. Me and OLD are not friends! I don’t have a contractual AGREEMENT with OLD! I can’t (necessarily) control everything, but I can pay ATTENTION to my thoughts and how I feel about what I’m thinking and as a result, I don’t LOOK or FEEL old! Speak love, long life, prosperity and health to YOURSELF, and over time I guarantee a change in your heart and mind.
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Sensual You

I am learning how powerful an understanding of one’s own sensuality can be. I feel strongly that I could only have made it so far in business before I was stopped at an impasse regarding this. Like the piece of a puzzle that fits into place perfectly, I am in relationship with a part of myself that I, quite frankly, am getting to know.

When some people hear the word sensuality they think of sex however, in this case what I am speaking of is the aspects of womanhood that should be celebrated, but in society we have been taught to be afraid of, mask, hide, be ashamed of, and whatever else you can think of. Those aspects such as internal beauty, appreciating our own power, intuition, our ability to run a household and run a business, our ability to be intimately close to our closest friends, etc.

In my opinion because we have been taught the aforementioned, it has been easy for woman to learn to despise their own femininity and to despise other woman! Of course the media indulges our anger toward one another with the various reality t.v. shows where you constantly see women fighting one another, not just for a man, but over whatever else we can hate each other for. Hair, nails, shoes, job, religion, etc., etc.

As I am learning to love ALL aspects of myself, I evolve in understanding my love toward sisterhood and womanhood. I am really appreciating this ride!

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Heal Thy Self

I had a revelatory morning involving another layer of my own healing process.

It began as I noticed a discomfort in my lower belly area in the wee hours of this morning! I have had this feeling before, however for some reason I wanted to stay focused enough to understand the root cause of this feeling. The area of the abdomen I am referring to holds the energy center (chakra) related to: Sense of abundance, well-being, pleasure and sexuality. As I began to process and try to get to the root cause, something remarkable began to happen. I began to remember my childhood when I was 7 years old! An event occurred, and because the purpose of this post is not the event itself, I will not go into details. We all go through something that tries to take away a belief that we hold about ourselves, leaving us with the memory of the event, and remembering would work to my advantage today. It was helpful to have a starting point by which to figure out when certain feelings began. In this case the feeling of being IGNORED. It appears that above and beyond the event itself, I began to ignore myself as a result of it. I have ignored how beautiful I am as a woman. In various ways such as when passing a mirror. Instead of acknowledging my beauty, I would act as if it doesn’t matter, or I would know intellectually that I am beautiful but not feel it in my heart. These were some of my signs but yours may be different.  Just by knowing this new-found information I felt a rush of pure joy in understanding some of what has caused this discomfort and could feel the same area that has caused me discomfort, clearing and feeling wonderful! It was like a missing piece to a puzzle. I realized again that all in all, the most paramount of all relationships is the one you have with and toward yourself. I know I am beautiful. I know I am worth it. I love myself! I am blessed this day with a more complete understanding and can continue to move on.

Together, let us move through the next level of your healing.

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